One of my resolutions this year is to take time for myself. As much as I love being with my family, I have to make time for myself to do what fills my cup and will ultimately make me a better wife, mom, friend, daughter and sister. If I can’t fully enjoy the time that I spend with the people I choose to have around me, then none of my hard work is worth it.
As a mom, or a parent in general really, it’s easy to forget about your own needs and self care tends to fall to the bottom of the to do list. Although, I think there are cultural influences on social media that encourage more of a focus on self care which can have positive ripple effects throughout our lives and the lives of those around us. As Karamo makes clear to his viewers on Queer Eye, “You can’t take care of anyone else effectively unless you take care of yourself first.” Mama, as hard as that is to admit, we all know it’s true. When Lila and Levi grow up and leave the nest, I want them to value their self care and put their well being towards the top of their priority list. So why do I let them see me give and give of myself until I’m so stressed out that I can hardly function? What we model for our kids is what they will put into practice later in life. Taking care of ourselves as parents and knowing when to do so is essential to giving children what they need as they grow.
As you can see, even though we missed the camera countdown in the photo booth for the first two shots, we had a blast and I can confidently say that as much as I love giving and receiving gifts, Bryan and I are able to find other ways to connect for Valentine’s Day and step away from our daily routines to remind each other why we chose to do life together.